Are you Married?

By: Monique Smith

1 Corinthians 6: 16-20: ^16-20There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

When reading through the Bible, we see where husbands and wives went to consummate their marriages by having sex. That still holds true to this day….but so many people blatantly ignore the marriage part. They fall prey to satisfying their flesh with the type of sex mentioned in verse 17, the kind that avoids commitment and intimacy….and actually leaves us MORE lonely than ever. Why? One: Because the flesh feeds off of that sexual addition and one may never feel satisfied until they have sex again. Two: If there is a knowledge of Christ in one’s life, they know they have went against a command from our heavenly Father. Allowing flesh and lust to overrule the gift of eternal life. Three: Because the people who slept together have no title or commitment (such as husband or wife) to each other, BUT have spiritually made that covenant by having sex.

Every time you have sex with someone outside of marriage, you are spiritually marrying them. Your soul is tied with their soul, you took on the act of consummating a marriage, that doesn’t even exist, and you are left with the emotional and physical baggage that comes with that sin. Now think back to that fact we heard in high school health class “If you have sex with Bob, and Bob has had sex with 5 people prior to you, then after you have sex with him, you would have slept with a total of 6 people”. In high school, I thought that fact was weird, but didn’t really seem like a big deal. But now, that I understand spiritual things…that’s CRAZY! To be hooked up with all those spirits and things?! No wonder the world is on a downwards spiral!

Getting back to the title of this devotional, think of all the people you are spiritually “married” to. How does that make you feel? Are you proud? Are you only married to Jesus? Are you married to 10 random females? Would you really want those dudes to father your children? Many of us are slobbering on our pillows at night, praying for “the right one”, but God isn’t going to send your true match in your life if you aren’t spiritually single. Why would he complicate you in the spirit even more, especially when he wants more of you in that area! A Facebook relationship status doesn’t define your “relationship status”, your heart and soul does. If your heart is still in your past relationship or if you haven’t asked God to break the soul ties from the previous relationship, then you’re doing yourself a disservice. You’re allowing that tie to block spiritual things to flow in that area and you’re also blocking God from lining you up with your proper spiritual mate. I hope you all got something from this and are encouraged to divorce some “unholy” matrimonies that have taken place in your life.

Prayer: This prayer should be one of self reflection and seeking God on the issues that you uncovered in your life. If you find yourself in a soul tie, if a sin was the cause of it, then repent. Renounce and Break the soul tie in Jesus’ name. You may have to fast to break the soul tie. You may have to rid your life of gifts connected to that person. Pray to God and seek wisdom on how to move forward and commit to not doing the same sin again. There is grace for you, so do not condemn yourself, but do not let your mind and flesh overlook the gravity of this issue.